Sunday, March 31, 2013

Today I'm going to blog about Parenting....

I thought it would be appropriate since it was Easter...He is risen!!!

God sent his son into the world to become His word in the flesh.  Jesus knew no sin, all his life, until that day at Calvary.  He was nailed on the cross by his hands and feet, can you imagine the pain He endured? The weight of His body, hanging from the nails?  A crown of thorns that dug into His flesh? Again, Jesus knew no pain of sin until that day.  That day, He gave His life and took upon Himself ALL the sins of everyone on earth, to save them from their death by sin.  Imagine living with no pain and no sin until you are thrust upon a cross, to bear unimaginable pain and suffering for others! My mind cannot get a grip around it.  

God sent his son Jesus into the world to save ALL of us.  None of us are perfect and are sinners, every day we live.  All we have to do is to accept Jesus as our Savior and we are accepted into the Kingdom of God .  Sounds simple, right? Well, the first step is. 

God, in sending his Son had to endure the pain of watching him die at the hands of cruel, ruthless, heartless people.  He was hurt beyond comprehension and God watched and could not do anything because He knew the outcome before it happened. God always knows what is going to happen because he wrote the book of our lives.  I cannot imagine Him and the anguish He felt at watching His son go through that agonizing death.  

Having gone through the death of a loved one, so tiny and without sin, at the hands of another, who was careless and in rage, I know that God knows how I feel.  The anger, rage, hopelessness, hurt, the longing, missing them (however, now Jesus is with God), grief....He knows all the emotions I feel.

God was and is the best parent. We just have to be quiet and listen to Him.  He loved His son and us enough to give Him to us to take our infirmities and then took Him home with Him to sit at His right hand.  How God must have wept watching what His son had to endure.

We as parents, I believe most parents, strive to do the best for our children.  We have our mothers as role models and we read books to try to be the best we can.  We make choices to be like our parents or change what we did not like as we, ourselves, were growing up.  Again, we do the best with the knowledge we have.

I always spent time with my kids, especially since their father was gone most evenings.  We went to the parks, rode bicycles, played, they had their friends over, no matter how many, there was always room for more.  God gives us our children for a little while, to instill in them His good ways.  The commandments to live by.  Again, we do the best we can.

I have a friend whom I sat with at church, who is having a problem getting her 13 year old to go to church.  She said the girl has drawn a line in the sand about doing anything with church.  Doesn't matter what church or where.  During the service God gave me a question to ask her and when the service was over, I did.  He said to ask her how old her daughter was...13...and where, as a mother did she draw her line in the sand for her daughter.  She looked at me and said she really hadn't thought of it like that.  BUT God did!!

My children are good, abiding kids.  Both grown, both loved their grandparents and are kind and considerate of others.  So, when one was unhappy with some things they thought I did or didn't do, I told them I did the best I could.  Their reply was, "well, it wasn't good enough".  In that moment, I had to make a choice and realized, this was the child in them talking or I could have taken it upon myself to let it fester and never seen or talked with them again.  I decided, since I was also told, "I don't care if I have a relationship with you", I had to, again be the mother and decide to forgive them and know that they are my child and even if they didn't want to have a relationship with my now, someday that might change. 

I love my kids equally, they are both very different in their personalities, stature and beliefs.  That is what I love the most about them.  They didn't have to be disciplined the same because they ARE different souls.  One accepts and is quiet, but has anger inside.  They are learning about how different life becomes and how it changes with their growing older.  The other challenges EVERYTHING, has to learn about everything themselves, but they are learning they can love and are learning to accept love.

We have all been children, just borrowed from God for a little while.  If we continue to grow is His teachings, our life with grow with love and He will help us endure.  I have learned to be still and "hear" what He wants for me.  Yes, it's difficult, but with His help, every minute of every day....I am blessed!!

God's Grace endures... forever!







Monday, March 11, 2013

Bibles....God's word written down...

I have found a wonderful Bible!  I have been attending Celebrate Recovery on Friday nights for awhile now. During one evening I went to look at the tables they set out before CR started.  They had the CR Bible out, so I naturally started thumbing through it!  I think I already have 4 Bibles, what is 1 more :)

I purchased mine and immediately thought about my daughter and how this would be good for her!  So, I went back and bought another for her.  This is the most awesome Bible I've seen.  Not only does it have the 12 steps, the 8 Beatitudes, but stories of people who have "walked through the fire" of Recovery with God!  The Bibles were soft covered and did not stand up.  About a week later, I decided I wanted a hard backed one and bought one.  With an extra one, I now had to decide what to do with it.  So, I gave it to another and had them promise to read it, which they promptly promised!!

I have 2 more people I would like to give this type of bible to.  I truly believe this will be a blessing to both.  I know God will bless them when they read it... This is God's wish for me to do. Please pray I will have the ability to buy these and that they be received in the manner of giving.

God is such a gracious God!  Answer the knock on the door when God comes, you will never be disappointed.

Grace...

Trust...

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and he will make your paths straight"  Proverbs 3:5-6

I think sometimes we like to put our trust in each other.  My mom always said, "people have feet of clay".  That means people are not God and they do not have the footholds God does.  Everytime I used to put my faith in another, I was disappointed. I EXPECTED, yes, there's that "E" word again, the people to do or be what "I" thought they should be or what they had promised they would be.  I expected to be able to trust them and sometimes was terribly disappointed.  My fault... 

If I give the situations to God and let Him handle them, things end up better, just not as soon as I would like...  Of course, MY time is not GOD's time.  I have no right being disappointed over not receiving MY expectations.

Again, I have trusted and have been misled.  I have a wonderful Accountability Partner.  She is not shy about telling me what she see's and giving me God's word.

As a woman, I can tell you it was ingrained in me when I was little to trust others, to not listen to my inner voice, but to listen to others, who knew better.  If I had listened to my inner voice, I would have not done some of the things I did.  I wish I had listened to to my inner voice over the years.  I think my inner voice was learning to hear God's voice.

Through Denial, I have learned that I cannot Isolate myself anymore.  When I Isolate, I stuff my feelings.  When I stuff my feelings, I get depressed.  AND when I get depressed, I need my therapist.  In April, I will start a new Therapy Session.  Hopefully, before that I will start my Step Classes.  I've completed the 1st part of the 1st Step.  It was very enlightening and didn't enjoy it...lol!!!  However, I do know it opened my eyes about being able to dis-associate.  I learned to dis-associate at the age of 3.  I really think that was when I learned not to trust, completely.  I had my "outside" face which did whatever I was told and whatever I needed to "be a good girl".  I grew up having my "outside" and my "inside".  And, so I lived....until now.

I am going to trust in the Lord with all my heart.  I believe He will bring out the "inside" me.  This is something I look forward to very much.  I will trust in Him and I will listen to what He wants me to be.

I will practice Grace within myself to wait upon the Lord....

Until next time...